Are you in ministry and find yourself exhausted from it all? Do you struggle creating boundaries? Do you want a day off? You are in the right place!
The Women in Ministry United podcast is for women who want to break free from overwhelm, lead with focus, and have time for things outside of ministry.
The question was never did you have the time, but rather, what will you do with the time you have?
There is a great gift that awaits you in this season...to give up the normal things that were hurting your soul so that you can fully live and lead as the person God created you to be!
In a continuation of our mini-series: Living and Leading in the Era of COVID-19, Jen shares how she's been confronted with the truth that trusting God means He gets to decide the outcome. Scripture read today is from Psalm 18 NLT
Creating space and margin to acknowledge our feelings and fears during the COVID-19 crisis (or any crisis for that matter) is extremely important. Jen talks shares the two words that have she has found to be powerful and pastoral during difficult times.
The Giving Up Normal podcast has been around since March of 2019. In the past few months, changes were being made to bring you even more focused content as we deal with our overstuffed lives and undernourished souls.
Then enters COVID-19.
The conversation around healthy margin and boundaries and caring for your soul is as relevant as ever but the context of our world as changed. Therefore the plans for content and frequency of the podcast has changed for now as well.
As we deal this viral pandemic, mini-podcast episodes will be released every weekday...at least, that is the plan. This episode is an introduction to this new format and ends with a reading from Psalm 91.
Let us know how we can be praying for you. Thank you for all you are doing to share the gospel and build the Kingdom. Our world may have changed...but GOD never changes!
You can find all the previous episodes of the Giving Up Normal podcast on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Google Play, and at Jen's other website ...
Do you remember the saying, "you can never have too much of a good thing?" Well, in some instances, that can spell disaster, particularly in ministry.
We are a society that believes the larger the initiative, and the more you do, the better. But in many cases doing more means achieving less. An increased number of events and doing things on a grander scale gives us a false sense of effectiveness. This type of thinking extends beyond secular culture and has infiltrated the church and various ministry organizations as well.
Many people who serve in ministry feel overloaded and fatigued. They go from one big project to the next. They are spread thin, and their leadership suffers. Instead of undertaking a few high-quality ventures that spur transformation, they crank out program after program that has minimal impact, leaving them and their people tired and overused.
More+Bigger DOES NOT EQUAL Better!
You can be a relevant church or ministry organization without overloading your team...
A few years ago, I knew that I was in danger of burning out. I was working full time in pastoral ministry. On top of my responsibilities at the church, I was coaching clients, completing all the requirements necessary to maintain my coaching credentials, serving as associate staff for a national organization, and I was helping my denomination build a disciple-making culture. These were all good things, but the amount of work was crushing me.
At the same time, God was inviting me to create space and margin to nurture some other pieces of me. I sensed a need to have bits of time that were unspoken for woven in my week. It was a way to let my life breathe. I wasn't sure what I was going to do in these cracks and crevices and had a hard time justifying using precious time in this way. Space to breathe is a necessity, but I struggled to carve out this healthy rhythm.
I was afraid.
I knew I couldn’t keep up the pace. Honestly, I didn’t want to anymore. But I was afraid that if...
I didn't know what I was getting into when I began my ministry. I had not spent much time "behind the curtain" and was surprised to find that many people in the congregation I led were still exploring a relationship with Jesus. It seemed strange that after being in the church for so long, they could be in this stage, but it also was exciting. People were hungry to know Jesus intimately. I immediately kicked it into high gear and poured myself completely into helping them.
It all seemed like a worthy cause. What else could be more significant than to walk alongside a group that is actively seeking the Lord? But as time went by, I found myself giving up other pieces of me. I didn't spend much time cultivating relationships with friends outside of the church. I didn't take time to rest. I left books that were not related to ministry on the shelf. I skimped on my time with the Lord. There was always a good reason to keep on serving.
I began to believe that this was the cross of ministry...
“Self-care is never a selfish act-it is simply good stewardship of the only gift I have, the gift I was put on earth to offer others.” ~Parker Palmer
Taking care of yourself often seems like a guilty pleasure. In our fast-paced world, we fill every moment, and expend all of our energy, while wishing there were more hours in the day. We scrape the bottom of the barrel, trying to muster up more stamina and strength to get through, only to rise and grind all over again.
As we push ourselves beyond the limits that God created for us, we wound our body, soul, and mind. Even worse, we carry that woundedness into our relationships, activities, and ministry. This is the way of the leader, we say. Always giving, never ceasing, going above and beyond. So off we go, in our self-inflicted woundedness, carrying it as a badge of honor.
Why do we do this?
We have convinced ourselves that we are not allowed to care for ourselves. We believe the lie that...
When I began my journey in pastoral leadership, I believed that to be a good leader, I needed to be available all of the time. I would meet people or attend meetings on my day off. I'd keep my phone on and close by so I could answer every call. I would check my email every day, sometimes late at night, just in case. When I was in my office, in the spirit of openness and transparency, I would allow anyone to come in at any time. I never wanted to be off-limits.
It was exhausting.
Being "on-call" nonstop interfered with essential ministry functions like my preparation for sermons, bible study, and meetings, it compromised my relationships and my family time, and it chipped away at my sanity. I needed space and quiet to let ideas percolate. I wanted to be able to work out and spend time with the Lord that wasn't related to my job. I needed to pick up my son from school on time and have the chance to make a healthy dinner and eat at the table like a civilized human being before getting...
If it's true that what you believe will directly impact the decisions that you make, and influence the outcome of your situation, (which I do agree with), then it is critical to check-in with ourselves, paying particular attention to the places where we are struggling.
Most women in ministry would not say they are thriving. Many feel as if it is all that they can do to get through the day. They are in survival mode, burned out, and depleted. Talking with these women reveals that many, if not most, are believing a lie that is keeping them from thriving.
According to dictionary.com, a lie is "a false statement made with deliberate intent to deceive; an intentional untruth; a falsehood."
Now, if you're like me, you might be thinking that you are too savvy and wise to fall prey to assertions designed to mislead you. But that's the thing about deception. It is subtle and unassuming. It creeps in, disguising the lies as reasonable...expected, yet in reality, untrue. And when we build...
This free guide shares tips to lay a solid foundation and gives you practical strategies that you can put into place in order to free up margin in your week and stay on track!